Elders At The Gate

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NorCal MALEs Event: Elders At The Gate

What: A Virtual Retreat Experience
When: January 8-10, 2021 - (Friday night through Sunday at noon, Pacific
Where: Virtual
Who: All men (and/or male-identified persons) over the age of 18 are
welcome. No previous participation in men's work or Illuman necessary.
Cost: $125.00. Scholarships are available. No man will be turned away
because of financial concerns. Free of charge for any man registered as
an initiate for a cancelled/postponed 2020 MROP.

Presented by NorCal MALEs, Elders at the Gate is a three-day virtual
experience inviting men into deeper brotherhood with themselves, others,
and the Spirit.

Utilizing story, image, ritual, and council, men are led, shoulder-to-shoulder,
through a journey of self-exploration and understanding. Elders at the Gate
brings men to the threshold of liminal space, space where authentic sharing
of one's life and story catalyzes spiritual transformation in themselves and

The event is truly a first of its kind in being created from the ground up
through collective action from Illuman men in tandem with Spirit. Our time
together will focus on our individual and collective explorations of the call,
'What is Mine to Do?' Drawing from the communal wisdom and talents of
the brotherhood, as well as never-before-seen video footage of Richard
Rohr and other Illuman elders, free spaces for locating, and cultivating a
greater understanding of your own answer to the topic will be offered. We
gather to assist one another in traveling closer toward our True Self. No
matter where you find yourself on your path, whether you are new to this
work or have been in it for years, Elders at the Gate offers a welcoming
home for You, all of you, to be seen, known, and loved.

Join us at the gate to begin our adventure together. Registration is open.

For any questions or concerns, please contact the event facilitator at

A Note from the Facilitator:

Greetings brothers. When the lockdowns began, it became clear that
Illuman would not be able to gather physically for our work for the
foreseeable future. With heavy hearts, Illuman postponed the US 2020
MROPs, including our NorCal chapter's MROP scheduled for November.
We wanted to offer some alternative for all of the men eager to connect in
the fellowship that had already signed up for MROPs across the country. From
there, brothers across the world got to work turning misfortune into
opportunity by creating something truly unique; a new, virtual offering that
brings the energy of the brotherhood right into the home.

We live in a time when folks have trouble listening to one another, making
space, even just taking the time to see one another for who they are, where
they are. The cacophony of daily life screams for our attention, caring little
for the quieter voices that may be speaking the wisdom we need to hear.
Elders at the Gate emphasizes creating a space to listen: listen to oneself,
to each other, and to the Spirit. We all have a story to tell. The Elders
want to hear yours.

Come join the men in listening to the wisdom of the Larger boldly,
intentionally, and authentically. The time together is an invitation to open
oneself to the bigger implications of Life: we are not separate, autonomous
beings in the vacuum of our own routines and mental constructs, but
connected, interdependent necessities in the flow of All That Is. We all
have a place in the Larger, a beautiful place that reaches out to us in
Grace. You are enough. You are loved. Your story matters.

We all need help along the way knowing if we are truly ready for the next
step on the journey. Our ancestors and elders have always been the
necessary touchstone to affirm our intuitions of the question, 'What is Mine
to Do?' Initiated or uninitiated, let us gather together to deepen our
brotherhood through strengthening our relationship to ourselves, each
other, and the Spirit. The Elders are waiting. The Elders are waiting for you
to show up. Ho brothers.

In Appreciation and Love
Joe Gabaeff, NorCal MALEs Board Member and Facilitator of Elders at the

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